How You Will Know He is The One

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With Valentine’s Day coming up, I can feel all my girlfriends flitting and flurrying around.
“I’ve got to find a guy to take me out!” They loudly whisper.
There is some advice I always give my single friends…
Now, I will say this– I still get butterflies when I don’t see my husband for awhile, but these aren’t magical butterflies. These are the type that had to burst out of their chrysalis. They weren’t the type to happen just because, or all the time in the beginning. Love should be slow burning, and should also be built up slowly.
In my relationship with my husband, there are stark differences between the beginning of our love, and the past long term relationships I had been in.
It took me 21 years to figure out that that difference was that was missing all along.
Wanna know the secret?
Our relationship has never been been about jealousy.
I knew Spencer was the right guy for me within two weeks of talking. Even crazier?
We had only talked on the phone. He was living in Georgia for the Summer, while I was back in Utah.
Our relationship was based on phone calls and skype sessions– some even last 10 hours (I kid you not!). The first time we kissed was right after he picked me up from the airport 3 months into the “talking via airwaves” thing.
Crazy story aside, I didn’t feel jealous once. Not when he went out with his guys. Not when he didn’t text back for hours. This relationship trumped all the rest because for once I didn’t have to worry. The best way to describe the beginning of our relationship is the feeling of content.
So my advice for single girls waiting around for Prince Charming? Don’t confuse others acting like Prince Charming to be your Prince Charming. If you have to question him, look at his phone, sit up worrying at night, or feel inadequate. He isn’t right. & for the record, if you can’t carry on a conversation without trying to change who you are, he isn’t right either. When Prince Charming shows up on your doorstep, you will know. You will know more than you ever thought you “knew” before because everything will fit together just right.

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16 Comments
  • Melissa
    February 5, 2015

    Such good advice. My husband and I have been together since high school (12 years now) and I'd say this sentiment rings very true in our relationship as well. We don't get jealous when the other has commitments that don't involve us (in fact, we encourage it because it's healthy to do things solo sometimes) and there's an underlying trust to our relationship that trumps everything else. Thanks so much for sharing…this is the kind of Valentine's Day post I love to read!!

    • lauryncakes
      February 8, 2015

      Ah! That is amazing! I love hearing about high school sweethearts. I am glad that my advice sounds right, since I am no expert. I completely agree, doing things solo is absolutely necessary!

  • jyonash
    February 5, 2015

    Great advice…listen to your gut!! I dated someone off and on for four yrs and was determined to marry him…despite that little voice telling me it was a bad idea. Luckily I didn't….I knew on the first date with my husband that he was the one! We have been married 17 yrs!

    • lauryncakes
      February 8, 2015

      That can be the toughest situation– I have been there too! Sometimes you just have to realize that as happy (and angry) as they make you, someone will make you happier!

  • Sami Simpson
    February 5, 2015

    Remember when you have me this advice in December and I didn't listen to you and it crashed and burned shortly thereafter? Note to self: listen to Lauryn xoxo

    • lauryncakes
      February 8, 2015

      YES! I am glad that you will think twice next time! I want you to always be happy.

  • Kimberly
    February 6, 2015

    Such touching words and pictures.

  • Lozelle Mathai
    February 6, 2015

    I knew I wanted my husband in my life forever, after dating for 6 months. I followed my gut and my heart. We have been married for 3 years and thus far it has been the best 3 years of my life.

    • lauryncakes
      February 8, 2015

      See?! You just know! Congrats on being married for three, happily!

  • Brianna Deg
    February 6, 2015

    Thanks Lauryn! One day when I find the one, I will re read this post <3

    xo, Brianna
    http://cityfashiongirl.blogspot.com/

    • lauryncakes
      February 8, 2015

      You will definitely find the one someday, and it will be amazing!

  • sydni
    February 8, 2015

    this is brilliant advice. my favorite part is the "don't pick someone because they ACT like prince charming" (paraphrased 😉 ). so true.

    • lauryncakes
      February 8, 2015

      Thank you! I am glad that it could be of some use to you!

  • Danielle Wolf
    February 9, 2015

    Beautiful post…I agree with your advice! By the way, love the photos!