How to Feel Confident in Your Twenties

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Ahh the never ending battle with your confidence. Its a tough one, and sometimes we lose. Being a women in this day and age presents many obstacles in building unshakable self-worth. The world expects you to be easy on the eyes, eloquent when you speak, to have a successful career, be the top of your class, have the best looking partner, and make enough money to live and dress well. These are not easy tasks to achieve, especially all at once, and that can really damage our self-image. In an effort to be the best (most confident) you, here are a few tips to build that ego!


How to Be Confident in your Twenties

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Become an Expert in a Subject

This is pivotal in feeling self-assured. When you know the ins and outs of a topic, you feel your best when conversing about it. Imagine being able to discuss an idea at length at a fancy dinner with people you are trying to impress. It feels good knowing a subject in depth, and being able to teach others about that point feels even better! Find something you're interested in and read up on the topic. Invest time in becoming the self-appointed expertThe Downside: don't overstep boundaries and force others to listen if you can tell the talk is making them uncomfortable.

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Work on your Health and Fitness

When you feel good, you look good. There is this magical psychological trick that when you are working on your health and fitness, even when you are not losing weight or changing your physical appearance, that you feel more confident! Working out and eating better contributes to clearer thinking, sounder sleep, and a happier demeanor. Of course, once you are really focusing on the goal of getting into shape, you will find weight loss and clearer skin as added benefits! Instant confidence boost! The Downside: thinking about working out and eating healthy all the time can be really hard for your mental state. Be sure that you are forgiving of yourself when you can't give your best in either area.

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Have a Passion (or five!)

Having passions changes lives. When people are passionate about something, it gives them a reason to live and be excited. When people are excited, others gravitate towards them. Think of how awesome it is to be able and answer the question, "so, what do you do for fun?" If you cannot immediately think of one thing (that doesn't include sleeping or Netflix) than you need to start soul searching! Dive in deep to a talent, hobby, or subject that you can call your own and develop. The Downside: if you pick up a passion that shuts you off from the rest of the world, this can cause a serious case of anti-social. Make sure you can connect with others through your passion.

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Discover What Makes you Feel Good and Wear It

It is important that you feel comfortable in what you wear. Everyone has a different style that is uniquely theirs, and nothing should change that-- not even trends! Find the clothing, shoes, makeup, and hairstyle that fit your personality and stick with it! Being yourself on the outside helps boost your confidence on the inside, and it shows through body language. The Downside: if being uniquely you is strange to other people, be prepared for some naysayers. You have to already have a base-level confidence to pull off wild or wacky styles.


Learn that Everyone is More Concerned with Themselves

This is a big concept that takes a long time for humans to realize. We often go through our childhood and teenage years thinking that the world is our stage and everyone is watching. As it turns out, everyone is so concerned with what they are doing, acting like, and how they are perceived, that they are not really noticing the small things that you may be worried about. If you just can't stop thinking about how you look doing x activity (or on a bad hair day), think about how much you really notice when someone else is in the same position. A little perspective can help with reality, and you'll notice to not sweat the small stuff when it comes to how others view you. The Downside: Unless you are cautious, you may be so unconcerned about how you affect others that you become distant or impolite. Find a balance. 

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Be a Cheerleader for Others

Take note as you become a champion of others: your confidence will soar. The phenomenon behind the action of service is two-fold, when benefiting you. The first reason it will build your confidence? Putting a smile on someone else's face is like a mirror and will reflect back on you. Many studies are showing that our emotions are driven by our outward body actions. For instance, if you fake a smile, a signal is sent to your brain that you are actually happy. In return, serotonin is released, causing a better mood and more confidence. The second part as to why being mindful of others can boost your confidence is because you will soon see others returning the favor. When you cheer others on, you are building a community of support around you, and that right there, will bring confidence.

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Do you have any other tips on keeping your confidence up? I would love to hear about them in the comments!


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35 comments:

  1. I love that you focused not on just the outside but that confidence comes from within :)

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  2. Being a cheerleader for others is such a great tip! Supporting your girlfriends is so important and comes back around. Xo Mindy

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  3. So many good tips lady! Confidence is always key!

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  4. I love this post! I wish I knew these tips in my twenties!

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  5. I love all of these tips, especially being a cheerleader for others!

    xx, Danielle | Pineapple & Prosecco

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  6. This is such a wonderful, and wonderfully written, article. Kudos and thank you for helping us find ways to feel better and love ourselves!!

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  7. Great tips!! It can be hard to stay confident in your 20s when you are evolving into who you are

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  8. such a great post! i especially love the last part about being a cheerleader for others!

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  9. I think these apply to women of any age! I can definitely apply these to make myself feel confident in my thirties!

    Megan | www.pipmegan.com

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  10. Awesome post lady and agree with all of these tips/statements. Thank you for sharing!

    xo Laura Leigh
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  11. Such a good read! I think a lot of people can relate and benefit from this!!!! xo

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  12. I totally agree, sometime I think we try and concur or do *too* much! Sticking to a topic and making yourself an expert can be a great confidence booster!

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  13. This is the best post and Much needed for myself! Discover what feels good and wear it! I love that!

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  14. These are all great tips and think they can apply to women of any age to be honest!!

    xo, Laura
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  15. This is so amazing, as a 25-year-old this post really resonated with me!
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  16. "Everyone is concerned with themselves" - SO true!

    Alyssa
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  17. I love this post and totally agree with all of your tips. I love yoga because it makes me feel good, I have time to meditate and self reflect, while also working out physically.

    Kileen
    cute & little

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  18. Great post Lauryn! I could not agree more with the last point! Boosting others is so important, and definitely builds your own confidence!
    XO
    Lee | LegalLee Blonde

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  19. I wish I felt good in my twenties!! You are wayyy ahead of the game my dear! Love these tips!!

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  20. This is so awesome, a great time in life!!

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  21. Such a great message! For me, confidence came with time and life experience.

    xoxo brandi
    www.BrandiSoileau.com

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  22. Loving these tips!! I like the idea of becoming the expert in something :)

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  23. I love these tips! Such a great reminder!

    Liz
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  24. Great tips! Health and fitness is so important for confidence!

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  25. A big fan of that last life skill! I loved my 20's! xo, Jessica

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  26. These are amazing tips, lady! Confidence is everything.

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  27. Completely agree about health and exercise! You feel so much better when you eat quality food.

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  28. These are such great tips! I struggled to find my own inner joy and confidence when I was in my early 20's. But once I hit 28, I found self appreciation and now in my 30's, I'm happier and more confident than ever before!

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  29. This was such a great post! I totally agree that everyone needs a passion. Also I am DIGGING your outfit. This is perfect on you.


    xo,
    Steph
    @trendyinindy || trendyinindy.com

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  30. these pants are so cool, you look amazing and confident!
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  31. Working out is definitely something I've learned to love in my 20s.

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  32. Such great tips, so true! And you look gorgeous as always!
    xx,
    Lindsay & Whitney

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  33. I love this! When you work good, you do feel so much more confident

    -xo, Azanique | www.lotsofsass.com

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  34. Being a cheerleader for others is great because it causes us to accept and celebrate others! Plus it makes others feel excellent! Great post!

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